Julia

Twelve years ago, because I was still in the closet, I mail ordered my hormones from an offshore pharmacy on an island nation in the South Pacific. Hiding my identity was like carrying a load of bricks on my back. I didn’t want my wife, my doctor, or anyone else to know that I was planning to transition. 

Eventually I told my wife I was trans, and she said, “I think everybody has the right to be free and be who they are. I always knew something was different about you, I just didn’t know what it was.” 

I thought transitioning would destroy my whole life, but I’m lucky, because my wife is very open minded. She not only accepted my transition, she embraced it. I don’t think transitioning changed our relationship, but it certainly helped me. Not having to hide is so freeing.